Dear Renee,

My friends are constantly putting women down, and I personally think that they are really intimidated by women. When we go to bars they act so cocky, but deep down they are all insecure. How can I deal with my own insecurities and shyness, and build my confidence? I surely can't get advice from my friends.

No Confidence
 

Dear No Confidence,

Most singles get their guidance from their peers, TV, and the media in general. The fact that you, on the other hand, want to learn more about yourself and how to build that inner strength that all women want in a man, is definitely a step in the right direction. You are way ahead of most men who claim to know it all.

That inner confidence you seek builds as you take control of your mind and really look at all you have to offer. Women are generally impressed by:


Your overall appearance;


The energy you project;


The words that come out of your mouth and how you deliver those words.

Remember that you ultimately control all of these, and it takes learning and practice to build those confidence muscles.

Taking the time to study women and yourself is the best way to reach your goal.

Taking control of your mind when it starts bringing you down really helps. Realize that your inner beliefs about yourself come out in your initial conversations with women, which send out the first signal for connection. If your internal conversation is negative, you may lose the contact unless the woman is on the same negative wavelength.

So next time you are talking to a woman, listen to what you're saying. Are your words sending out a positive message or are you turning women off? Only you know the answer; you are in control of your thoughts.

Renee

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