By Paul Kyriazi
You see her across the room. Ah, so attractive. But nobody to introduce
her to you. 'Ah, I'll do a James Bond on her,' you think. Now what was
Bond's first words to Pussy Galore? 'I must be dreaming.' No, that
won't work. How about singing 'Underneath the Mango Tree' to her as
Bond did to Honey Rider in 'Dr. No'. Ah? No! Well, what's left? You'll
just have to go up and talk to her, if it's a situation where you won't
see her again. But it's always safe to assume that she has a boyfriend
that can squeeze the stuffings out of a gold ball. That aside, take a
chance and make polite conversation. What's the worst that can happen.
She says, 'I'm sorry, I'm not available.' and you save the time and
money of a date with her. Like George Burns says, 'When a beautiful
woman says 'no' to me, it's a relief.
If you know that you will see her again, like at your university, your
job, or working at a restaurant, you can have another shot at her and
use the shy man's approach to getting a date.
'You farm boys don't make a pitch, you just shy your way into position,' Ann Margaret says to Pat Boone in 'State Fair'.
Okay, here it is. Instead of asking her to dinner or out on a date
which has romance intended, get some tickets to a concert or event
first, and then with tickets in hand say, 'I just happened to have
tickets to this event. If you'd like to go with me, I'd be happy to
take you.' This way the subject is the event. Talk about the person
singing at the concert, instead of if the two of you could hit it off
or not. She can easily say yes or no, or ask more questions about you
or the time and place of the event. She doesn't have the pressure of
turning you down, so she can just turn the event down and that will be
that. And if by chance she can't make that date, but is interested in
you, she can start talking about going out another time.
I've strongly suggested this 'ticket' technique to both men and women
who are infatuated with someone at work, or at shop, or restaurant, and
have no idea how to make an approach. If the person is available, they
usually say yes to an invitation. After all, it's just going to an
event. It's not really a date.
I used this 'ticket' technique in college to ask out a beautiful
stranger. I was very shy, but was 'in love' from a distance so I had to
take some kind of scary attraction. Her name was Cindy and I often saw
her in the student lounge surrounded by guys. It took weeks of watching
her before I could catch her walking alone, and ask her if she'd like
to go see the reserved seat Cinerama showing of 'Grand Prix'. She said,
'Well, I don't know you, but if you come and talk to me sometimes and I
get to know you, then maybe.'
So in the next days I made an attempts at getting in a few words with
her as she talked with her friends. Then I found out she was taking the
film appreciation class that I had taken a semester earlier. So I
pushed the teacher to show my new 16mm action film in the class that
she was in. He fiqured I had a secret motive because he said he'd show
it in the morning class, but I said it had to be shown in the afternoon
class (the one Cindy was in). Finally, he agreed.
I not only directed the film, but had a part in it where I used my
newly learned karate and hoped she would be impressed. The film went
over great with the class cheering and applauding. As she was leaving
the class I said to her, 'Well, do you know me well enough now?' She
said, 'To go out with you? I replied, 'Yes.' She smilled and nodded her
head yes. So don't 'ask her out'. Don't 'take her to dinner'. Get some
tickets, and maybe she'll answer you like Cameron Diaz does in
'Charlie's Angels'. 'Tickets? I love tickets!'
About The Author
Paul Kyriazi - Live the James Bond Lifestyle
http://www.BondLife.com
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