By Don Diebel

I want to talk about a very negative and destructive thought
pattern that can create havoc in your pursuit of single women.
What is it? It's self-pity and feeling sorry for yourself when
you are lonely and down-in-the-dumps because you have nobody
to love.

Self-pity can become a habit just like a drug habit. When
taking drugs your body can develop a tolerance to them and
require larger and larger doses to get the same effect from the
drug. And, so it is with self-pity. The more you allow your
mind to become consumed with self-pity, the more it will
require. Then you fall into the habit of being totally consumed
by self-pity. It becomes a vicious cycle.

At this point, you're so down on yourself and depressed that
your love life is in the pits, you feel hopeless, and you are

paralyzed from taking the action you need to take to get out of

your rut and start meeting and dating single women again.

This situation is only temporary and is never hopeless. There
is a cure and the cure lies within you. If you will just think
things out to analyze your situation and how you got into your

self-pitying rut, I'm sure you will discover that the problems
that made you wallow in your own self-pity were mainly created
by you. This being said, it's up to you to not become a victim
of self-pity.

When you feel yourself wanting to feel sorry for yourself
because your love life is not working out like you want it to
be, fight off this feeling with all your might and will power.
Do not allow it to take over your mind and fill it with
negative and unhappy thoughts.

Instead, tell yourself everything is going to work out ok. It
won't be long until I find someone special. I just have to be
patient and take action every time I see an opportunity to meet
a woman. I like this slogan that I use to give me motivation
and inspiration: "If it's going to be, it's up to me!"

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles
Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to
successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with
women, please visit his website at: http://www.getgirls.com -
This article is copyright (c) 2005 by Don Diebel and may be
reprinted in it's entirety as long as his website, byline,
and copyright statement is included.

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