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What To Put On A Dating Site Profile And What To Leave Out |
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Thursday, 06 October 2005 |
By Merav Knafo
Your dating site profile is the most important tool you have to find
love online—and fast. It’s the identity that you put forward to other
online daters, it’s what people see when they’re looking for people
like you and it’s all you’ve got to make a first impression and pull in
the proposals.
It’s not an exaggeration to say that all that lies between you and the
end of your single days is the skill with which you complete your
profile.
The kind of information that you’ll be asked to reveal about yourself
will vary from service to service. Dating sites put a huge amount of
effort into coming up with the right questions to make matching easy
without putting off new members. Some sites for example, will ask you
to tick just a handful of boxes and write one short paragraph. Others
will have section after section that grill you about your personality,
your interests, your hopes and your history.
In general, it’s a good idea to complete all the sections of a dating
site profile however many they may be. You don’t have to do it all in
one sitting and you can certainly come back to fill in the gaps later,
but as long as you have spaces in your profile that remain unfilled you
can give the impression of looking evasive and less than completely
serious.
The good news is that the bulk of the profile won’t take long to
complete. Even the most demanding sites don’t ask you to write more
than three or four mini-compositions about yourself and your ideal
date, and the majority of just about any dating site profile is always
a series of checkboxes about your likes and dislikes.
Fill these sections in as accurately and as quickly as you can and move
on. For the most part, cyberdaters skip right past these parts of the
profile. They look too much like shopping lists. Mostly they help the
site’s matching engine far more than the dater looking for a match. The
fact that someone likes jazz more than rock, or comedies more than
documentaries, doesn’t really tell you whether they’re going to like
you—or whether you’re going to like them.
A few checkboxes though are important. When you come to tell the world
the age range of the person you’re looking for, it’s important to be
realistic. Many men in particular like to think that because there are
so many women on the Internet, they can use it as a way to meet women
half their age. That’s not impossible but at best it’s going to need a
long wait and at worst, it’s going to be a compete waste of time.
Internet dating can bring all sorts of people together. It can
certainly match people up who are looking for something very
specific—and even a little unusual. But when you begin looking for
someone online, you want your profile to be as inclusive as possible.
Once the emails come in, you can then start to focus on the most
attractive responses. If you’d like to meet someone in their early
twenties for example but would also be happy with someone in their
mid-thirties then it’s best to choose a wide age range that casts a big
net than focus on one particular group and change when you feel you’re
not having any luck.
When it comes to describing your own age range though, honesty is
always the best policy. There’s always a temptation for cyberdaters in
their early-somethings to shave a few years off and slip back into an
earlier decade. It happens a lot (and it’s a good reason to be
suspicious of people who claim to be aged 29 or 38 etc.) But it’s just
not worth it. At some point you will have to spill the beans and
spilling them in front of someone you really want to impress is far
worse than being honest to someone you haven’t met and might never
meet. If the passing single really doesn’t want to date someone your
age, it’s best not to meet them at all than date them and get the
rejection face-to-face.
Merav Knafo
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