By Martin Smith
Dating is a challenge at any age and for both women and men.
Ladies worry about your hair, your make-up and whether you look
fat. The men worry is their tie straight (if they wear one), do
they have enough money, and whether or not you will like him. Basically
both sexes are worrying about whether they are liked and accepted.
Believe it or not there are things that you can do to make your date
less stressful. Make your date feel comfortable. If you are
throwing questions at your date, they may feel like they are on trial.
Let the conversation happen naturally and most of your questions
open-ended. This means that while yes and no questions while used
sparingly, are fine, they can lead to stilted conversation and
tension. Talk about all kinds of topics and try to engage your
date in the conversation. Never force conversation.
Here’s one you hear all the time. “Relax, be yourself, you’ll be
fine” Share your interests but listen to your date too. Both of
you will probably be nervous so try to relax. One of the most
important things you can do is be on time either to pick-up your date
or be ready to be picked up.
There are things you should definitely not do on a date. Don’t
talk about yourself all night and don’t complain and whine about your
ex, your date will wonder what you will say about them. Don’t ask
too many questions-it’s not the Inquisition. Don’t be late
picking up your date or in getting ready. Most importantly, don’t
forget to thank your date for a good time.
Dating is about getting to know your date and letting them get to know
you. Try doing something different that you haven’t tried up until now.
Alternate deciding where you are going, it could relieve a lot of
tension and you just might learn something very interesting.
One other very important, in fact, it could be most important, is
dating safety. There are so many ways to meet someone now that
it’s fairly easy for anyone with less than good intentions to be able
to follow through on them. The suggestions that follow while
addressed to ladies, men pay attention because reality is, is that you
too could be a target.
For the first few dates go to public places and not isolated
ones. If you are meeting someone that you have been talking to
online there are several things you can do to keep yourself safe aside
from meeting in a very public place. Don’t go alone, have a
friend or two go to the same place and sit where they can see you and
your table at all times.
You might consider this even if you have met your date already.
The nice guy you met at the library may seem sweet but he may not
be. If you have any kind of uncomfortable feeling, listen to your
gut and do what you have to do to be safe.
Try to learn about your date. Where does he live? What kind of
work does he do? If he doesn’t want to tell you I wouldn’t consider
dating him a second time. He may be very nice and the most loving
person but be careful if he won’t share some personal information. I
suppose giving too much information could be a warning signal too.
You’ve heard of date rape drugs well they can not only be put in
alcoholic beverages but in soda, tea, coffee, or water. Actually they
can go in almost any beverage. This is one reason to have someone
you know nearby so that if you leave the table they can kind of keep an
eye the table (and your date). Watch how much alcohol you consume. You
want to keep your wits about you at all times and if you are driving
this is even more important.
Use any safety devices that you can (and ones that are legal).
The most important tool anyone can have is a cell phone, whether man or
woman your can break down or be in a crash. The cell phone will bring
help that much quicker. You should have it programmed so that you only
have to press one number for 911.
Many can be programmed that when you hold down a particular key 911 is
automatically dialed. Most cell phones have GPS capability. Pepper
sprays, high decibel personal alarms are two more safety tools. Check
with your local police and attorney to see what is acceptable in your
community. Many areas have banned pepper sprays.
Other general safety advice whether dating or not is never go anywhere
unfamiliar alone. Always wear your seatbelt. If someone grabs you
with a weapon and ordered to go with him or her it is suggested by some
that you take a stand right away. Scream, yell, bite, or kick or do
anything you have to do to become safe.
Go for the groin and the eyes. Shove the heel of your hand into the
assailant’s nose very hard. Yell Fire!! People will react to fire
rather than help.
This next thing is something to do in almost any situation not just
dating. When giving out personal information to someone be careful how
much you tell them.
I remember when keeping yourself safe wasn’t such a serious matter.
There are new ways to overpower someone and to cover up a crime. Keep
yourself safe, and lastly always let someone know where you are
planning to go and if you can the person that will accompany you.
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Martin Smith is a successful freelance writer providing advice and tips on a variety of subjects if you need tips on
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