By HM Hovis
Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or
just starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice. Not the
kind you get from your mother, but rather the kind that actually might
get you past the first date, on to the 2nd and perhaps on to a happily
ever after.
So you have decided to date and you are thinking about the "online
dating" thing? Well, why not. To be cliche' everyone is doing it! In
today's action packed, hustle, bustle world, who had time or energy to
meet the traditional ways. Online meeting has become a norm, and is
gaining in acceptability.
Writing Your Profile Many online dating services offer assistance in
writing your profile, if you are not a good writer then this may be
something you should consider. Before you sit down to write your
profile, find out how others see you, so that you can more adequately
describe yourself as you are seen. (You don't see yourself as others do
- probably) The best way to do this is ask around. You don't have to
tell anyone why - just ask for one word that describes your looks, work
habits, home environment etc get a list and go from there. Chances are
you will come closer to a good description of yourself that way than
any other way.
To Post a Picture or Not To Post - That is the question Well are you
photogenic? You know even if you aren't there has to be a picture
somewhere of you that looks good. Find it! Whoever said a picture is
worth a thousand words knew what the were talking about. And let's face
it - this is a shallow society - we are attracted by looks in addition
to pleny of other things - but looks are definetly high on the list.
Not putting up a picture leads to suspicion of whether you are
attractive or not - what's wrong with you! Put it up there.
Free Online Dating Services, Trials, and Charges You get what you pay
for - most of the time. Most of the online dating services charge. It's
a huge market - just doesn't seem like it when you are actually trying
to find a date does it? The best thing to do is find a trial service,
or a service that allows you to wink or send eye contact or a smile to
another party to let them know you are interested. So if you both just
send that and then it goes nowhere you have to decide - are they worth
the fee to join the site to find out more. If you do decide to join,
keep in mind that most of these sites won't let the other person
respond without also having a membership. That does not mean however
that you can't send them an alternate method of contacting you. There
is nothing more frustrating than being contacted by someone you would
like to write back to, but no way to do that unless you also join. Is
it worth the fees? Some site editors are not too bright either and you
can sneak little ways into your profile that allow future interested
parties a way to find you. Such as saying something like - "I have the
same name where the little yellow man is" would tell someone that your
username at AOL would be the same as your username on the profile and
they might then contact you without you either one buying a membership.
If you choose to post on more than one site, try to spice each profile
up a bit differently. No one wants to read the same thing twice, and
what you might have missed out on saying in one profile may be the
thing that catches someone's attention on another profile. Use
different pictures too.
What to be Cautious of Online meeting has allowed us to move a bit
faster than traditional dating. Your inhibitions all fall down when you
are sitting behind a computer screen and you can do or say or flirt
however you want and it's not as difficult as it is face to face. What
that usually leads to is assuming you know someone better than you
normally would before you've ever had that first date - but beware -
their inhibitions were down too and they may have come across a lot
greater than they really are.
Do You Take Down Your Profile When You Meet Someone? Well - did they
take down their profile? If they did, and you are serious about being
exclusive, then you should take down your profile. (on all the sites
you have it up on) But if they haven't and you aren't then leave it up.
Think how many fish swimming around in the sea might nibble on your
bait while you have it out there!
Perhaps getting online and flirting and maybe even meeting up with
someone is the push you need to get out more and enjoy life. Maybe it
leads to happily ever after. Whatever it leads to enjoy it and yourself!
About The Author
HM Hovis holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Mass Communication with an
emphasis in Public Relations. As a gifted writer, she writes both for
fun and for work.
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