By Terry Hernon MacDonald
So, you’re convinced that you have zero opportunities to meet men.
Are you stuck in an office all day with the same stiffs day in and day
out? Have you tried singles’ dances, only to leave feeling worse than
when you went in? Did the last loser your aunt set you up with squash
your Chihuahua when he screeched up the driveway?
Well, don’t fret. I have some ideas for you. While advice columnists
steer single women into churches to meet honest, loyal, and successful
men, I wouldn’t dream of it. Church is great for communing with
God, but it never struck me as the best place to meet a man. People,
including me, are on our best behavior at church. If you’d rather meet
a man where he’s more likely to be himself, here are my top three
recommendations:
1. A bar, specifically during Monday Night Football.
Football season is a great time to meet men who flock to taverns to
watch the NFL. When I was single, I loved going to Monday Night
Football (even though I didn’t really understand the game) because the
bar was filled with mostly single men, there was a free buffet, and the
atmosphere was merry. Advice columnists usually tell women to stay out
of bars if they want to meet suitable men, but I disagree. It’s
important to see how a man drinks, and how he behaves under the
influence of alcohol. Does he get wasted and drive home? Or, does he
have a couple of beers and switch to water before he leaves? Does he
smack the bartender in the head when his team loses, or does he remain
amiable? There are things you can learn in a bar about a man that you
never will in church. Bring a friend with you and make having fun, not
hooking up, your first priority. You may have to show up three weeks in
a row before anybody shows interest in you (or, then again, maybe not).
Keep in mind that different bars attract different types of people. If
you don’t like the crowd in one bar, try another place next time.
2. A class. I know, I know. You’ve heard this one
before, but have you ever tried it? Let me tell you a story: My friend
Brian’s longtime girlfriend dropped him for another guy. After grieving
for a while, he dusted himself off and signed up for a cooking class.
See, Brian loves to cook, but he put off pursuing formal training while
he was with What’s-Her-Name. Once she was out of the picture, though,
he decided to register for a course, figuring he’d meet many likeminded
women there. Sure enough, he did. I advise you to write down a
list of hobbies you’d like to explore and figure out which of them
would also appeal to men. Then sign up for a class or join a club. See
what happens.
3. Throw a party. While Brian did meet lots of women
at the cooking class, he didn’t fall in love with any of them. So he
threw a party where he could show off his new skills. He wasn’t picky
about who he invited and told everybody to bring a friend or two. The
result? A woman he’d never met showed up. They fell in love and have
been married now for two years. But even if Brian hadn’t met his future
wife that night, hosting that party netted him plenty of invitations to
others, providing opportunities to meet many more people. A caveat:
When you plan your party, don’t exclude married friends from the guest
list. You don’t want your big night to feel like a singles’ mixer.
Instead, invite couples and encourage them to bring a friend.
Remember, the trick to meeting new men is to break up your routine.
Step one: Put down the remote. I assure you that the world is
full of great single men like Brian who want to meet someone special,
and for one of those men, that person is you. Seek and create new
social situations. Act naturally. Smile. Whatever you do, don’t keep
twisting your neck like you’re casing the place for a live one.
Maintain eye contact with whomever you’re talking to, whether it’s a
man or a woman. Having fun is key. When you’re having fun, you’ll
attract men like a magnet.
About The Author
(c)Terry Hernon MacDonald. The author of the ebook "How to Attract and
Marry the Man of Your Dreams," Terry Hernon MacDonald writes frequently
about dating and relationships. After bumping her way through a series
of disastrous dates and relationships, she learned how to attract a man
who makes her happiness his first priority. They have been married for
12 years. Visit Terry's website at http://www.marrysmart.com
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